“Sorry sorry sorry sorry…”

A week or two ago I did something to a friend that was pretty impersonal, even though we’ve known each other since high school. (And there’s not too many people I’m still in touch with from high school.) When they called me out on it (during a text conversation), my response went like this:

...it wasn't just you and I wanted to talk in person but you're right and I'm sorry.

Apologizing for a mistake or for something you forgot is easy. Apologizing for something you actually did deliberately is harder—it’s admitting not only that you …

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I recently got a temporary crown on one of my right molars, which stays on until my next appointment. During this time I’m, reasonably, supposed to avoid chewing on the right side of my mouth whenever possible. (And absolutely no hard candy or anything over there!)

Now, I’m not OCD, but I do have quirks in that direction. One of them has to do with symmetrical chewing — in addition to using both sides of my mouth to chew, like most people, I have a tendency to deliberately start using one side if I notice I’ve been favoring the other…

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“Everyone’s a little bit racist…”

Not quite a “personal characteristics post” like Spontaneity or Sincerity, but still an “-ity”. And somewhat in line with the category anyway.

I recently read A Room of One’s Own, by Virginia Woolf, on account of a friend’s essay-length blog post that placed it as a necessary piece for understanding the situation of the woman author. It is a great book, an essay told in light, accessible, and enjoyable narrative prose. It’s presented as both opinion and truth, and identifies the trap of writing against rather than about, instead of falling into…

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